So this female friend of mine was confiding in me the other day (as she does at least once a week) about how she slapped this guy’s hand away as he tried to bust some moves. Her actions made me realize that I have some simple insider information to help you better deal with guys in your relationships.

First a little history. This girl (Let’s call her Lucy)  has been dating this guy for about a month ago. Lucy normally puts out on the first or second date depending on how much alcohol she drinks. Many guys have taken advantage of her moral flexibility as they have “hit it and quit it” as Tom Leykis would say. So now Sara has found a guy she really likes, a guy with a lot of long term potential. She doesn’t want him to bail on her like so many others have, so she is not giving up the goods so quickly this time.

A month into their dating she eventually finds her way into his bed after a long night of drinking. Lucy restrains herself and doesn’t have sex with him. In fact, she’s been telling him that she wants to take things slow and he’s been very understanding (see, he is a catch).

Fast forward to the morning and they are spooning. The guy reaches around to try to feel her up. Her response? She immediately slaps his hand away. Now all of this my seem innocent enough to you ladies, but from a guy’s perspective the hand slap is a huge, huge turn off. Here this guy is finally builds up the courage and goes in for some romance and you totally reject him by swatting his hand. What are you, his mother?

After that incident Lucy said the guy was a little quiet the rest of the morning. This worried her and this is why she was seeking my opinion. The ever familiar, “do you think he still likes me, he was acting weird” question was asked. Well, the reason the guy started acting weird is that you slapped his hand away!

It’s simple ladies, next time a guy is making an advance you don’t want or are uncomfortable with (and I’m talking about a guy you are dating, not some random guy at the bar), just gently grab his hand and tell him “let’s take it slow.” It may be your natural instinct or reflex to slap at him, but really you should refrain if you want to keep the guy around for a while. He won’t feel as rejected and will have more respect for you if you simple communicate in a nicer manner. Let me know how it works out for you girls.

-Date Guy