Dear Date Guy,

I am in a situation I don’t want to be in. I have been seeing Zack for four years we were high school sweethearts and now we have an 8 month baby. We had her very young we are both 19. Well we have dated and broken up a bunch of times and I really do love him. Problem is he isn’t being honest with me he lies all the time and I have a feeling he is cheating. I honestly don’t know what to do do I hold on or just let him go. I don’t know if he is even interested in our daughter. I hope you can tell me what to do cause he wont be honest with me and tell me whats going on. How do I get him to be honest with me?

-A.S.

Dear A.S.,

First I would encourage you to read some advice I gave to another girl who was in a similar situation, a baby and a boyfriend not completely committed to the relationship. You can check that out HERE.

Like my advice to the other girl, you need to put your baby first before anyone else. You brought this being into the world and you need to provide the absolute healthiest environment you can. Ok, I’ll get off of my soap box now.

Your guy is young, very young. Girls are better suited to have children earlier than guys. Simply put, we’re just immature. And your boyfriend is no exception. He’s obviously not ready to be in a fully committed relationship with you. If he was, you wouldn’t feel like he is lying and cheating. So don’t overlook that.

So what to do? Give this guy some space. You need to stop expecting him to act like your boyfriend as that is only adding stress and will likely do nothing more than push him away. Instead, treat him like the father of your baby and only expect him to be committed to that. Things may change down the road, but right now you need to shift gears and put your child first and focus on this guy as a father and not a significant other.

Best of luck,

Date Guy

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