Dear Date Guy,

I’ve been dating this guy for about two months.  I haven’t been exclusive to him, but recently he told me that I am the only girl he has been seeing or sleeping with.  The other night I went out with him, his friends, and his sister (who is a friend of mine).  He was really cool, holding my hand most of the night and acting like we were in a real relationship.  We left the bar and he was very drunk.  Sloppy drunk, staggering around the street.

Outside of the club he runs into this girl he works with.  I had my back turned on him while I was talking to his sister.  Next thing I know I turn around and the asshole is totally making out with that chick!  He was so drunk I don’t think he even knew what was going on.  But really, why would he do that right in front of me? I know he isn’t my boyfriend and I’ve been sleeping with other guys, but he was the one who told me that I was the only girl he was dating.  So I stormed off and he didn’t even come after me.  WTF?  To make it worse, he didn’t even send me a text trying to explain himself that night. 

He finally sent me a text message the next day saying, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you.”  And that’s about it.  I’m soooo pissed at him. I’m totally writing him off, but should I text him back? I totally want to tell him off, but is it worth my time?  Please advise me Date Guy.

- Bonnie from Toronto

Dear Bonnie,

I’m happy to hear that you are not going to put up with his complete disrespect of you. If he’s making out with another girl right in front of you you’re obviously not the only girl he is dating, no matter what he tells you. Since you are writing him off and don’t plan to see him again, I suggest you have a little “fun” with him and mess with his mind.

My advice is a little devious. Here is what you do. Send him a text back with the following: “It’s really not a big deal. I actually thought that girl was really cute. I’ve never been with another girl, but I wouldn’t mind sharing you with her for a night.” That’s it. He will get really fired up at the thought of a possible threesome (a guy’s wet dream). I guarantee you that he will text/call you back immediately to try to make the threesome happen. When he sends that text, just ignore him. Whatever you do, don’t write him back. This will drive him absolutely nuts. After that, I’m sure he’ll try to contact you yet again. In the end, you my dear will have the last laugh!