Hi Date Guy, I’m 14 (probably a little too young for your advice, but this was the only website that looked promising, so whatever). I’m interested in politics and I’m at the top of most of my classes, so I’ve had a lot of guys tell me that I’m too smart and that they find it intimidating. I don’t want to stop answering in class or have my grades drop, but I was wondering if you had any ideas for not scaring guys off? I mean, it’s not even like I show off my grades. Thanks!

14 years old? Yeah, probably a bit younger than I’m used to giving advice to but I couldn’t resist as the answer is so easy. First off, congratulations on taking school so seriously and doing so well. As you get older, you will find that quality guys find smart women sexy. So whatever you do, don’t let your grades suffer because you are afraid that guys find it a turn-off. Keep doing what your are doing and you’ll find plenty of dudes chasing you around, especially in college.

So what can you do for now? Try complimenting some of these guys when they ask/answer questions in class (ie, “that was a really question you asked in class today” or “wow, I never would have thought of it that way”). Guys are ego-manics, so anytime a girl tells them something that makes them feel good they will be happy. And being that you are viewed as smart, your compliments it will come off as genuine and score you some points with the boys. Keep up the good work!

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